Broken is a story that is best read Chronologically to start from the beginning – Prologue
Dating apps are funny. I probably didn’t start out with a great profile. It’s hard when you have been married and then into another relationship. I didn’t have the pictures some of the other people had, those sense of adventures.. I just had to put up what I could find. Although one is Hailey’s favorite picture. I tried to accurately describe myself. I still feel it is about 80% visual though.
I am a very open person to all colors and types. I like tall or short women, dark skinned, light skinned, curvy, or fit. It didn’t matter. I look for a good energy and a good person. I just needed to be attracted. But what I discovered early on is that women of different cultures and racial backgrounds found me most intriguing. I would get matches on Asian, Latin American, and African American women frequently. And it would skew younger. Maybe the women my age don’t like the baby face boy next door look. I would have this blind spot with women my own age… huh.
Turns out South American women especially like me. Brazilian women call me “Handsome Matt. With the clear eyes.” (Blue but you get the idea). And I say women because that line came out of two of them almost verbatim. I can only ascertain that they have plenty of tall dark and handsome and the boy next door thing worked.
I was enjoying dating. I was learning about myself and meeting nice people. Although it wasn’t always stellar. Early on in this experience I had met a woman who I thought was going to be pretentious. We arranged to meet at the bar. And she came in and was not pretentious at all, more like manic. She was waving her arms and in 90 seconds spilled her Martini right in my lap. I was soaked. I told her not to worry I excused myself to the mens room and was in there 2 minutes into a date with my pants at my ankles trying to dry out as much as I could but I still had to pull my jeans back up and I was just a soggy mess.
I came back and she said “I didn’t mean to make you wet like that.” I laughed because it was funny. But it was hard to ignore the all over the place is what caused my discomfort as I squished around in my seat. I tried to save the day and for the most part we had a little fun. But I honestly could not wait to get home to get out of my soaked state.
So far so interesting I was trying to have a good time and not think of Hailey. But it caused me to still take on too many dates each week. Could I date my way through this pain…
If I may ask-What was your ex wife doing all this time? Was she out there dating-still blaming you -just how was she coping and were you helping? Thank you
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We had actually had a little truce at the time. I am sure she on some level will always blame me. It was my choice. I don’t think she was dating. I would help her in any way I could and did as much as she would allow. I try to keep a respectful distance with her. I will be there when she asks and when it’s clear she doesn’t want me near I try to keep my distance.
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Well, you can sure try!!!
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I can have fun while trying. 🙂
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Exactly! You could use a little joy in your life, my friend 🙂
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You are so right some naughty joy. 🙂
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Now the minus Hailey drama is turning into a great read, sorry about your pants getting soggy, but it was funny… I went on one date after 31 years of not doing that thing, (20 married, 8 with Tom 3 prior to Tom) guy was feeding me all the right chat, just the right level of intimacy via online chat, good conversation etc, so I agreed to meet him for an afternoon date to start, the date was so bad I blogged it, I must find it and post it, it was like a chapter on how not to date, what not to do, what not to say, and never ever admit you have an imaginary friend called Dewi. Very freaky, but I countered with one of my characters from a serial killer story I was working on, I adopted him as my very own alter ego and scared the crap out of David/Dewi in the process. That part was fun…
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I actually meant to message you. I went back to the Tom stories and it says it is no longer there?
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oh okay… I’ll have a look at that, if it’s not there, I’ll email it to you 😀
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thank you!
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actually, my math is wrong on here, the ‘date’ happened in the three years prior to meeting Tom! So just a little over 8 years ago now! 😛
I have a pants memory…
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That was such a great story.
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