Broken is a story that is best read Chronologically to start from the beginning – Prologue
So I was going to write about my weekend and a strange run in with Hailey (yes again) but I am going to finish it tomorrow. A subject came up and thought it was a good just departure from everything.
Darcey and I were talking about ‘moves’ mostly in terms of initiation. I managed an entire marriage without any initiation for intimacy from one side. I think you could guess the side. And it has become a fascinating area for me in dating.
We discussed the gray space of initiating, experiences, and expectations or rules in sort of common law. We have had movement towards enthusiastic consent in today’s day and age. And then there is the side where a woman likes to be ‘taken’ or have a man take charge. It’s not a debate we need to have here necessarily.
But it led to well what are some good ways to show you want or are ready to have sex. Whether it’s the first time or the 100th time. Initiation is important to me. I want to initiate and I want someone to as well. I want to show desire and want to see desire as well.
I struggle with it if it’s the first time. I am an empath I like to feel what is going on before I make a move towards sex. But here are some signals I like from women.
The sure fire way to get a guy to know you want it is the obvious move… grab his dick. When you are kissing or you feel it just grab it like you worship it. I go crazy for this. And it’s not ambiguous. But most guys do. There are other more subtle ways.
I am also a big fan of saying something sexy. I will never forget the first time it happened to me I was 20 years old. We were doing one of those go away for the weekend things so we could drink and hang out with friends. Me and the girl I was with at the time had the pull out couch later that night. I think we drew some king of short straw. And it was getting late. She asked when everyone thought they would go to bed.
And when everyone said soon and went around the table she whispered in my ear “I can’t wait to suck your dick.” It was like lightning went through my body. It knocked me out. I was full on trying to get everyone to go to bed right away.
There is another seduction that I love and it is passive aggressive in the best way possible. A person who shall remain nameless would do this often. Undress in front of me. It was an act of presenting me her body and submitting to my will. Add a pause. And it gives both a moment to see who might take charge. But it is the most unused tool in a woman’s arsenal in my humble opinion. Men love women’s bodies and all kinds. Especially undressed ones.
You don’t need to play a stripper just take it off deliberately. And it should trigger any man’s inner primal.
But I wonder what it is like on the other side? What can a man do to seduce a woman? Are there subtle signals we miss?