Broken – Triangulation

This is one of the most insidious things Hailey did but was always persistent with it. She got a taste of this sometime later in her marriage and essentially lived for it even now.


Broken is a story that is best read Chronologically to start from the beginning – Prologue

This is one of the most insidious things Hailey did but was always persistent with it. She got a taste of this sometime later in her marriage and essentially lived for it even now.

With her there are always three. She may not be having an affair but she is triangulating. She did it with James and I. Just think almost 18 months we had an affair. And he knew about it through 15 of them. That’s right over a year. He knew about us dating for over 2 years. And suspected we were carrying on when she went back to him.

She would tell me how exhausting it was for her. But yet every couple days a new revelation that she would make to him. An admission of some detail of the affair. She would make it seem like it was her wearing down of his constant badgering. And she likely made it even seem that way to him. But his reaction and drama to whatever was delicious fuel. Then to run to me to tell me was just an amazing high to her.

This is how you discover someone is who they are. There was never any reason to tell James. He even reacted to her previous affair with the same aggression. The guy had to threaten a restraining order against James just to get him away. So why would she do this? She only created a massive problem in her marriage and made me, a person who she supposedly loved, a target.

Triangulation is the only thing that makes sense. Occam’s Razor. And this can be applied to almost anything a manipulative person does when you ask why they did it. Simple answer- they wanted it to happen. All of it. None of this is by mistake. Telling James and dating the guy 2 doors down is entirely intentional.

She even triangulated with my ex. When she came back to me in late January of 2020 after ghosting me for 3 weeks. She mentioned something about her demons and how she missed the basement at my old house. I know now what she meant. She couldn’t articulate why or she was embarrassed or maybe didn’t even know why. But it was her desire to feel good because she was fucking someone’s husband in their house. Let that sink in for a moment. That was something she missed. Um what?

Why would you miss it… because we can do it now in a safe place, without hiding. People confuse this with the excitement of an affair. It is not the SAME thing at all. That can feel fun to anyone. Part of it was the damage it could cause, the thought of stealing someone’s husband right in their own home. When the thought of hurting someone gives you a high- get therapy.

When I suggest she dated the guy down the street because of me. Well it really is and isn’t because of that. It is because of this triangulation fuel. She keeps me and him under control and two fuel supplies constantly feeding her. I am just a great source of fuel for her. She doesn’t need to start an affair, just a golden period with the new relationship fuel and energy while she knows she is destroying me.

This is so beyond gross to do this to a man whose heart you broke and another who you are smothering with love all in the name of fuel and control. And she has set herself up indefinitely. But I now don’t care about her fuel. She can take what she wants I am good.

They appearance on the dating apps was no mistake. That was a signal to me. One of don’t forget me I could be single at any moment. But she did it while seeing him and making sure he was still there. Because the worst thing for her is to be alone. No fuel supplies.

She has dropped hints everywhere along the way that she does this, besides the overt stuff. Antagonizing James by… “going to bed in your Nirvana T-shirt, wish me luck.” One simple statement she gets fuel from me and him. All with wearing a fucking T-shirt. Hurting James trying to flatter me but also making me a target.

To get to me she only needed to park out front of his building to hit me with it. She is entitled to park out there but it doesn’t mean she isn’t a fucking asshole. Here is what HG Tudor has to say about triangulation.

As I type this she just sent me a message via social media…

Author: Matt

Hi, I’m Matt. Just your average uneventful guy. Dedicated Dad, emapth, and nurturer. Going through something I couldn’t possible ever thought possible. My story is called Broken. About an affair at the end of a long marriage and how ultimately I experienced the worst heartbreak of my life. It's honest, raw, and a little bit entertaining. I hope to share my story so people can learn while being therapeutic for myself.

5 thoughts on “Broken – Triangulation”

  1. Um… mind-boggling.

    I like how you describe this fuel thing. This is news to me. (I mean, I understand it now that you describe it, I have seen this happen in non-romantic relationships but didn’t make the association to fuel. Very interesting concept.)

    What happened on social media? Do not let us hang like this… 😛

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    1. It is described well here – https://narcsite.com/2021/05/24/what-fuel-feels-like-to-a-narcissist-10/.

      It is just your emotional output of any kind in form of attention to them. They need it and want it. And this is all that matters you will hear terms like Narcissistic Supply. It just means people are like appliances or inanimate objects.

      I am writing the post now. What I found out recently is sooooo much more than I thought. If I thought that was possible. I am trying to figure out the best way to convey this.

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  2. Yeah….when you shared that with us the first time….her saying she missed having you in your basement….I remember thinking, damn she is trashy…. how some people get off on that is beyond me. She is NOT a quality person.

    That is quite the cliff hanger, my friend! I hope we get to read about the social media message soon….
    XOXO

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